10 Most Common & Serious Mistakes Singles Make

Many relationships that seem to have stalled or can't seem to get past that 3 or 6 month or one year mark, is due to the following:

1. Failure to recognise that DESTINY IS DISCOVERED NOT DECIDED.

2. Failure to recognise that marriage is primarily and ultimately about destiny and ultimately for destiny fulfilment.

- Hebrews 10:7, 'Lo, I come (in the volume of the book it is written of me,) to do thy will, O God.'

3. Failure to discover your purpose first before discovering your partner.

- The man or woman you marry must first of all be decided by purpose/destiny for both of you.
- You marry someone who will stand with you and you with them together to fulfil destiny (why you are here, becoming all you were created to be).
- That should be the driving factor not just good looks, someone to cook for you, provide for you, a shoulder to cry on, companionship, sex looks, romance, etc.

4. Not seeking divine direction before stepping out: just like the clay telling the potter what they want:

- Jeremiah 18:5-6, 'Then the word of the LORD came to me, saying, O house of Israel, cannot I do with you as this potter? saith the LORD. Behold, as the clay is in the potter's hand, so
are ye in mine hand, O house of Israel.'

- Isaiah 64:8, 'But now, O LORD, thou art our father; we are the clay, and thou our potter; and we all are the work of thy hand.'

5. Failure to be guided primarily by your divine purpose or assignment on earth:

- Proverbs 27:8, 'As a bird that wandereth from her nest, so [is] a man that wandereth from his place [or assignment/purpose in life]'

6. Choosing what seems right verses discovering what is right:

Proverbs 14:12, 'There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof [are] the ways of death.'

There is a vast difference between what seems, feels or sounds right and what is right.

When it comes to relationships, even smart singles make serious mistakes. That is why God said to Jeremiah at the beginning of his journey in Jeremiah 1:5&10 'Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, [separated you for a specific assignment here] and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations. [I know who you are - the kind of person you are, what I have called you to do......] .....See, I have this day set thee over the nations and over the kingdoms, to root out, and to pull down, and to destroy, and to throw down, to build, and to plant.'

- So it's not your way it's His way.
- The product does not tell the manufacturer who they are and what they want to do.
- Destiny and who you marry and stay married to is primarily to fulfil destiny and procreate - posterity to continue what you started - replenish the earth.
- So destiny and who you marry is not decided but discovered all because of the ultimate - DESTINY - that's why you must get it right.

7. Playing instead of praying - 'Pay now, play later; play now, pay later.' - John Maxwell

8. Failure to recognise that your marriage partner is discovered not decided.

9. Going round looking for or applying for a partner instead of being busy about the Master's business or your divine assignment here on earth which provokes or triggers divine intervention on your behalf because of your priorities, e.g. Ruth, Rahab, Rebekah, Leah, Rachel. (1 Corinthians 7)

10. Creating a relationship without also building a friendship first.

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